Sex

I met Jaiya many years ago. She refers to herself as a Sex Expert. I read her recent email and
wanted to share it with you. Her tips are below:

Okay guys, one of the biggest complaints I get from women is that foreplay gets skipped. Ladies, am I right? I love men. I love helping them to become better lovers. So let me help you get started on giving the best foreplay ever!

Tip #1- Know Her Blueprint Type™

So I’ll admit, not every woman wants lots of foreplay. As a matter fact, it annoys some of them.

Some men need foreplay. My partner is one of them.
Does that surprise you?

A person’s gender is not a good divining rod for knowing what turns them on.

So, your first step in any sexual encounter is to find out what her Erotic Blueprint Type™ is.

What is that, you ask?

Well, there are 5 Erotic Blueprint Types™:

The Energetic: Loves anticipation, space and tease. They will need foreplay techniques like eye gazing, breathing together, light touch and hovering touch. The space between you can be an incredible turn on.

The Sensual: Loves all the senses being stimulated, full body sensation and tons of foreplay. They will need to luxuriate. Foreplay could be the main event and last for hours. Try music, great smells, feeding each other, massage, hot baths, candles, slow dancing and more.

The Sexual: Loves sex, penetration and nudity. With a sexual too much foreplay could actually turn them off. You want to get to the point with genital touch a bit faster than you might with other Blueprint Types.

The Kinky: Loves to play with the taboo. You’ll need to know if your Kinky partner is turned on more by the psychology of the play, the sensation of the play or both. Try handcuffs, spanking, power games, Bonadassage or role-play. Always play safe and learn proper technique before diving in.

The Shapeshifter: Loves all of the above. You’ll need to check in with them about what kind of mood they are in. They may want it all.

To find out more about these Blueprint Types you’ll want to take our Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ Quiz and watch our upcoming video series on the Erotic Blueprint Types™.

Tip #2 – Keep Yourself Turned On

Most likely you will not have the same Blueprint Type™ as the person you are arousing, so you may find yourself either wanting to move forward too quickly, too slowly, or getting distracted. This is “the worst” thing you can do for keeping your lover engaged.

To keep yourself focused keep tuning in to what turns you on, while at the same time feeding their Blueprint.

I also see guys who get anxiety around performance and they focus too much on her pleasure and loose all of their own.

The trick is to weave in and out of your own pleasure and their pleasure. Bonus points if you can find pleasure in feeding their Blueprint.

Tip #3 – Hygiene is Part of Foreplay

I have to be honest here. I’ve worked with thousands of men and hundreds of couples. One of the things that women tell me over and over and over again is that the reason why they don’t want to have sex is because their partner either has bad breath, bad body odors, or they don’t clean “down below”. Yeesh!

I’m not telling you that you have to spray yourself with air fresheners or cologne (as a matter of fact, don’t do that, they’re hormone disruptors). What I am telling you is to take some time to freshen up. Make sure your bum, breath, and balls are yummy! Trim your nails, trim your facial hair, and put on some essential oils like frankincense or ylang ylang. Find smells she likes and you can anchor that smell to pleasure and orgasm!

For a sensual blueprint this piece is a must! A bad smell will turn them off faster than thinking of grandma.

These tips, especially understanding the Blueprint Types™ will give you a great foundation to creating amazing foreplay and seduction. So be sure to look out for our quiz coming very, very soon.

Until then,

Fill your life with pleasure,

Jaiya

p.s. Another secret is also knowing yourself, and telling people your needs and desires and your strengths and weaknesses. This takes some vulnerability and authenticity, but let me tell you, honesty is one of my biggest aphrodisiacs!

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I was having a conversation on a flight from Madrid to London last week with a man from Spain. We talked about the inequality of women in some countries before he segued into being a father of 16 and 18 year old sons. He’d already gathered how open and real I am about my experience and how I believe many realities and truths can simultaneously exist. It’s not one way, its the way we say is so for us. With that said, the conversation segueing from the inequality of women, to his sons in Spain and the influence he has on them and how they treat young women was where things went. I asked him if he had conversations around sex with them. He laughed and said no. I asked why? That’s an age where boys are becoming young men. That area of their bodies are very much awake and curious. Isn’t our responsibility as adults who have life experience under our belts to educate and share our knowledge with our kids? If we don’t, we repeat the same ignorance that came before.
I can only speak from a female perspective and how in my experience boys weren’t asking questions, they had one goal in mind and they went for it. I know adult women who can’t ask for what they want and even being open and real, it’s not always easy to guide a passionate man when in bed together as it takes overcoming insecurities and inhibitions to say what I want. I do believe men are more than willing to please but its not always easy to guide a man who truly does need guidance unless he’s had lots of experience with many different women and has learned something.
My own personal experience prompted me to ask him if he would be able to explain to his sons about pleasing women and what he’s learned, so that they understood there is also a timidity in women that may keep them from asking for the things that pleasure them, and being okay with walking away with just the man being pleased. Women have been taught to satisfy a man and to put his needs before hers. Today women are more aware of their own needs but doesn’t always mean that its easy to ask for them in bed. It sure would be helpful if men who have teenage sons take the time to inform them of their experience so that the new young men growing up can have the compassion and understanding to know more about the sexual experience for the women.
Women talk much more openly to one another than men do in my experience. I am curious if men would like to know more of what it is that women crave, appreciate and desire? I saw this man on the plane laugh and agree with me that he could see that being a useful discussion with his boys. I also saw his discomfort and his contemplation wondering if he could do it. If more men would like to be in the conversation with women who would offer some insight outside of the bedroom, then write to me. I’m open to entertaining your questions and being in dialogue around the conversation of sex between men and women. Write to me and we’ll expand on the possibilities in a respectful space of understanding and a willingness to grow. Cheers, Foxy Locks